Healing my marriage

When we’ve built a strong foundation, we can reach across the chasm toward one another and allow Love to fill it.

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Life is about living Love. The relationships that fulfill us are those through which we learn, and bless…and love honestly.

My relationship with my husband is my most important human relationship. Together, we’ve built a life with family, community, and a safe place for individual growth. We’ve given our children an honest example of loving dedication through living all of “for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health.” 

Our shared love for the Divine has been our rock, and what has lifted us out of countless moments of fear, life-threatening illness, financial uncertainty, times when we’re not certain which way to turn, and more. It’s hard, consistent, rewarding work. 

One of two “Moses Moments” when I heard God speak directly to me, was during a late night car ride, with my then boyfriend, along a river in college. I heard, “This is the man you’re going to spend the rest of your life with.” It was so powerful and moving that I turned my face to the window and cried. 

Years later, I experienced another seminal moment. As the late evening summer sun slid through the window blinds of a dark room, my husband and I huddled together in painful conversation. Exhausted and numb, we finally agreed to divorce.

What followed that moment of decision was immediate and profound. A feeling literally washed over me from head to toe. Just as I let go of the relationship, all the feelings of deep, genuine care came rushing back. The numbness broke, and I felt a new desire to fight for our marriage.